Florida mom Courtney Baker is making national headlines for the letter she posted to her Facebook page:
A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her
child during her sonograms. He would check over her baby and comment,
“He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited
that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said,
“I told you. He’s perfect.”
Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s
experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have
had. I wish you would have been that doctor.
I came to you
at the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious, and in
complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and
that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and
encouragement, you suggested we abort our child. I told you her name
and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life
would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider
our decision to continue the pregnancy. From that first visit, we
dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made
nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth.
My child was perfect.
I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad that the
tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual
awe. I’m sad that the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet
little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears, don’t always give you
pause. I’m sad that you were so very wrong to say that a baby with Down
syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken that
you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I’m mostly sad that
you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter. Emersyn.
Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life,
she’s touched the hearts of thousands. She’s given us a purpose and a
joy that is impossible to express. She’s given us bigger smiles, more
laughter, and sweeter kisses than we’ve ever known. She’s opened our
eyes to true beauty and pure love.
So my prayer is that no
other mommy will ever have to go through what I did. My prayer is that
you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every life
displayed on every sonogram. And my prayer is when you see that next
baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will
look at that mommy and see me, then tell her the truth…
“Your child is absolutely perfect.”